silence

 But look at what is actually happening, not what might be happening in his head:

• He says he’ll do something → doesn’t follow through

• He avoids phone calls → low emotional availability

• He disappears for days → inconsistency

• He makes a strange “clean my house” offer → blurred, transactional energy

• He created sexual intensity fast → emotional shortcut

Those are not neutral signals. They are data.

They don’t mean he’s a bad person.
They mean: he does not operate the way you need a partner to operate.

So when you say:

“I was trying to see how it could work into his communication style”

That’s the old pattern talking again:
How do I adjust myself to fit someone else?

The healed version asks:
“Does his style fit me?”

“Your silence after saying you’d help me didn’t feel great. I need clearer communication.”