Red table talk unforgiveness 10.28.22

You cannot absorb what people think about you - Jada smith


WOW



UNFORGIVENESS

talk behind people's back. I'm not ready to forgive you yet. 

this was so big, idk if I can trust you again


we force ourselves to stay in these situations (family, 


YOU NEED TO GET OVER IT

and we don't have the capacity to do that, and that's okay.

HOW DO YOU FORGET THESE BIG THINGS? 

not bring it up is the grace that you are offering the other person. I also don't have to forget about it. 


THE TOOL IS FOR ME TO NOT THINK ABOUT IT AS OFTEN.

we may still be triggered after the forgiveness. that memory might come back. you may have a day, a moment. the intensity changes over time. 

EXPOSURE THERAPY-

Expose it and learn to manage it. (interesting)







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