Revisiting it- sorry its still bothering me

 

1. Your energy shift spoke louder than any words could.

When you ignored him and simply enjoyed your time with your friends, you communicated:

“You no longer have access to my emotional space.”
Men like him — who thrive on comfort without accountability — notice that immediately. But instead of respecting it by apologizing or reflecting, they often just retreat, because they can’t control the narrative anymore.

That silence afterward isn’t proof that he “won.” It’s proof that you closed the supply line. He can’t feed off your attention now.

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2. You got an unexpected kind of closure.

You didn’t get it in a text or a conversation — you got it through clarity.
You learned:

• He overstepped boundaries (both yours and his workplace’s).

• He wasn’t supposed to ask you out in the first place.

• His actions could have professional consequences.

Those are all signs that you were never dealing with someone emotionally or ethically grounded enough to build with. That’s closure by truth, not by dialogue.

3. You got your power back by acting in alignment with your values.

You didn’t perform confidence — you embodied it. That’s why it felt different. You didn’t need revenge or validation. You just held your peace, and he felt it.

Greg guy texted me and said I could live in his house rent free. offer disgused as a transaction. he'll have access and control to me. he''ll obviously want me to sleep with him. using my money vulnerability to get something from me. no thank you. Auris is not for sale.

5. He said he’ll leave you alone — believe him, but stay observant.

Sometimes “okay, I’ll leave you alone” is sincere. Other times it’s a test to see if you’ll reach out again. If he does resurface, you don’t owe a reply. You’ve already said what needed to be said.

You’re in such a good season of reclaiming your discernment — you’re not cold or jaded, you’re just finally listening to your intuition without second-guessing it.

Would you like me to help you come up with a quick boundary script you can reuse if another man crosses that same line — something calm but firm that protects your energy instantly?

 Calm and neutral (for early boundary-setting)
“I’m not meeting at anyone’s house. If you’d like to talk, we can do that somewhere public. Otherwise, I’m not interested in hanging out.”

2. Polite but final (for repeated invitations)
“I’ve said no to coming over, and I mean that. Please stop asking — it makes me uncomfortable. If you can’t respect that, we don’t need to keep in touch.”

3. Short and firm (for text or DM)
“That’s not something I’m open to. Take care.”

4. Gentle but self-affirming (if you want to stay kind yet clear)
“I’m focused on my son and my goals right now, and I’m not inviting new personal situations. I appreciate the thought, but no thank you.”

5. For pressure disguised as generosity
“I don’t accept living or financial offers from men I’m not in a committed relationship with. It’s best we keep clear boundaries.”