Walks in the Park

 1) God is the source, the provider. you dont have to wait for David. When he meets you will have your own thing. so I wont be desperate, I won't need to be saved.  I thought he would come in and chance my life. Give me something to do, to serve.  I guess God wants me to become my own woman. Maybe that's the gift of now. but God so long has passed and the obstacles that I have faced. My path   is not like everyone else.  I am still here, I am still significant. Maybe everything that we do matters. 2) God told me to watch that video again, the B Simone video with the guy. and he said you are protected, you are valued. When he said don't come out under Satan's wing. Come out only when God decides. He will have the men prove themselves worthy of you.  I thought of the guys in Miami, the validation I seek, how eager I am to be seen. Coming out. But when it's God time you don't come out. You stay in, you stay hidden, you stay protected.  I cried so dee...

 this is deep for me. my life I was trained to serve, to be kind, to cook, to clean, to be a wife. yea i'm not a wife. i'm a mom, which is a serving role. me getting a massage was big because im' not used to receiving. Alaka, he liked this pattern he tried to use me because there I was with all these gifts and skills and intelligence and I had nowhere to put it. his tatks gave me some purpose in that period. but when my life became uncomfortable, I was homeless sleeping on the street he wanted to relate to me the same, do this task. it was cruel, it was inconsiderate. he sent me $100 one time when my phone broke. that relationship shouldn't survive. I kept giving him chances and I started to feel uncomfortable and nothing the disbalance. my whole family did absolutely nothing. only my uncle my aunt and my mom  acted like they were concerned. but the truth was, my mom was lying to everyone. she pretended she didn't know what was going on. I told all of them I was hom...

 So the lesson here doesn’t sound like “I need to become less myself.” It sounds more like: I need to notice earlier whether there’s room for me too. I need to treat my needs as normal, not as an inconvenience. You said something very revealing: “asking for something seems criminal.” That feeling usually comes from somewhere older than this one relationship — often from experiences where asking led to disappointment, conflict, or withdrawal from others. So the nervous system learns: stay small, keep harmony, don’t risk rejection. What your mind seems to be updating now is: a relationship where you can’t take up space isn’t actually safe, even if it feels calm at first. And the fact that you asked for something simple — a coffee date — is actually important. That was you testing whether there was space for you. The response you got gave you information, even if it hurt at the time. One thing that might be worth sitting with, not as pressure but as curiosity: when you ...

 I'm always here with you, Aurois _ GOD even today, you told me my son would want to get out early. I forgot about it, but you were right. I stayed here and he called, and I picked him up.  you were right, those little details, you look out for me.

 Yes — let’s go with #3: building a sense of fullness alone so relationships become optional, not necessary. Here’s the framework: 1️⃣ Recognize your own ecosystem You don’t need anyone to validate your value. List the ways you already provide for yourself emotionally, physically, and mentally : your career, your son, your hobbies, your accomplishments. When you see yourself as a full ecosystem , a relationship becomes additive, not compensatory . 2️⃣ Separate emotional labor from relational worth You naturally give a lot — help, care, listening, effort. That doesn’t mean your worth is tied to what you do for others. Practice asking: “Am I giving because I want to, or because I need connection or approval?” 3️⃣ Choose relationships consciously You don’t have to reject warmth or connection — you just set the terms . Examples: “I’m happy to help with X, but my time ends at Y.” “I enjoy talking, but I don’t provide free labor.” “I choose fri...

 yesterday was fire today was move in day this space is much bigger alex is my buddy we did it just the two of us, how we do everything in life i'm tired