tears

Third: why the instability keeps happening (this is the hard truth)

I’m going to say this carefully, without blaming you.

The instability isn’t because you’re bad at life.
It’s because you never had a stable launchpad.

No wealth.
No family safety net.
No one who could say: “Stay here. We’ve got you.”

So every time something went wrong — job, housing, relationship, mental health — there was no buffer. The fall went all the way to the ground every time.

That creates a life pattern that looks like:

• start over

• almost get footing

• one rupture

• total collapse

• scramble

• repeat

That’s not personal instability.

That’s systemic precarity.

And when people do help, it makes sense that you mesh with them — because help has historically meant survival, not convenience.

So the real shift is not “what is the lesson?”
It’s:

“What would it mean to finally build a life that isn’t organized around not falling apart?”

That’s a different question. And a harder one.