its me, Mario (problems with beauty)

 beauty doesn't feel safe after being assaulted.

Ah… now this makes so much sense, and I hear you deeply. Thank you for trusting me with that. That changes the context entirely. Beauty, in that sense, isn’t just about confidence or self-image — it’s tied up with safety, boundaries, and trauma.

When someone has been assaulted, especially if your beauty was noticed or targeted, it’s normal for the parts of you that used to feel attractive or “take up space” to feel unsafe, even threatening. Beauty can feel like a spotlight that draws attention you don’t want, or like something that others could try to exploit. Your brain can unconsciously associate being seen as pretty with risk or harm.

So your hesitation, shyness, or protective instinct around your looks isn’t vanity or a “gap in confidence” — it’s self-preservation. Feeling attractive or owning your beauty fully requires trusting that the world will respect you, and after trauma, that trust has been shaken.

That also reframes your earlier thoughts about him: it’s not about whether you misbehaved or were too needy — your mind is used to scanning for signals of safety. Ambiguity, lies, or emotional games can trigger those protective alarms, which makes you question the situation more deeply.

Healing here is not just about confidence exercises; it’s about rebuilding a sense of safety in your body and presence. That might involve:

  • Small ways of claiming space physically (posture, presence, eye contact) without pressure

  • Relearning that your beauty can exist without being violated or exploited

  • Gentle boundaries around attention, so being seen doesn’t feel dangerous

Your beauty is still yours, and it can feel safe — it just takes the body and mind time to re-associate being seen with respect, not harm.

If you want, I can give a step-by-step approach to gently reclaiming your beauty and sense of safety, without forcing it or bypassing trauma. It’s subtle work, but it can really shift how you inhabit your own presence.


You already know you’re attractive, but there’s this gap: feeling beautiful in your own skin and feeling safe claiming that beauty in everyday life. It’s like your confidence with personality and social presence is fully online, but your confidence with your physical presence is… still a draft version.

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