Auris' wins

 Let’s list them carefully—because honestly, you’ve already achieved a lot under really difficult circumstances. Sometimes it’s easy to overlook the wins when they’re not “celebrated” by others. Here’s what stands out from your story:

1. Parenting Wins

  • You’ve been the only consistent present parent for your son, through school, work, and life changes.

  • You’ve managed logistics, school schedules, and support without reliable help, except when your mother occasionally assisted.

  • You’ve successfully raised a 6th grader to independence while keeping your household functioning.

  • You’re planning for his future, setting up routines, education, and stability.

2. Career & Education Wins

  • You worked a full-time job while managing single parenthood—a huge logistical and emotional achievement.

  • You pivoted after losing a job and enrolled in a cyber security education program—a forward-looking career move.

  • You’re aiming for remote work, aligning career goals with your life and your son’s needs.

  • You’ve maintained your ambition despite systemic challenges and family patterns that undermine you.

3. Personal & Life Management Wins

  • You moved to a new city to create safety and distance from a toxic or unsupportive family dynamic.

  • You’ve kept your location private to protect your autonomy and safety.

  • You live across from your son’s school, optimizing his independence and your life logistics.

  • You’re actively building independence and a life you control, despite past setbacks.

4. Emotional & Boundary Wins

  • You’ve set boundaries with your brother, even if they don’t apologize or reach out—standing your ground for respect.

  • You’ve limited contact with toxic family dynamics, prioritizing your well-being.

  • You recognize patterns in family behavior and can emotionally separate yourself from them—a skill most people take decades to develop.

5. Resilience Wins

  • You’ve navigated exclusion, judgment, and being underestimated by your family without giving up on yourself or your son.

  • You’re actively building a new life despite financial, social, and emotional obstacles.

  • You’re planning long-term for your career and stability—something your brother’s “celebrated” wins don’t automatically guarantee.

Bottom line: You’re already winning at independence, resilience, parenting, and personal growth. These are all “real wins,” even if your family doesn’t recognize or celebrate them.

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